
A favourite question from visitors as they walk up the drive looking at the remarkably familiar building silhouetted in front of them is what does the flag mean and why those colours? The short answer is that it is to do with the grandeur of the home and the colours in my husband’s coat of arms which are blue and red.
These two straightforward colours have proved rather useful in the modern world, giving us themes for our branding and gift shop packaging. More seriously, part of the purpose of a flag is as an emblem or device. The word derives from a piece of cloth and flags and banners were used mainly in warfare. To some extent they still remain as insignia of leadership and for display: certainly, at a more national level, flags remain the symbols of countries, kings, organizations, cities, and guilds and are deeply honoured.
Equally, they have been, and in some situations still are, used as a form of communication. For example, a yellow flag was the signal for infectious illness: a ship hoisted it to denote that there were some on board suffering from yellow fever, cholera, or some such infectious malady and it used to remain hoisted until the ship had passed quarantine.

The Roll of Honour from the First Word War
The British flag, the Union Jack, is a diplomatic statement in that it incorporates the crosses of St George (England), St. Andrew (Scotland) and St Patrick (Ireland) whilst the white flag is universally used as a flag of truce. To denote honour and respect, a flag is “dipped” and a flag flying at half-mast is the universal symbol of mourning as happened most recently in this country on the death of Prince Philip.
Of course, the other powerful symbolic manner to honour the dead is silence. At the 11th hour on the 11th day of the 11th month – November – we all stop to remember the silencing of the guns on the western front, the end of the war that was supposed to end all wars. It is a rare community moment and can invoke thanksgiving, pride or grief, a collective moment of peace to honour those who gave up their lives in that conflict and all those that followed.
Over a hundred years later, first-hand knowledge of the First World War has faded and it is those who fought in WW2 who are now asking us not to forget. The symbol of Remembrance Day, the red poppy, still remains, epitomised by the Canadian poet John Macrae:

Poppies on Highclere farmland
In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row.
Whether John Macrae knew it or not, the poppy has an appropriate life cycle: it sheds its petals after just a day, but nature is extraordinary and over the course or three or four months, each plant will produce more than 400 flowers in succession.

The Cedar Airman honouring the airmen – American British and New Zealand – who died here in WW2
As winter starts to take hold on the estate, I take the Seasons at Highclere journey into the past, into the lives of the families who lived here four thousand years ago, when the poppy is thought to have first arrived in the UK, possibly from the Mediterranean, as seeds attached to goods imported by British Iron Age farmers. They, in their turn, buried their families and heroes with care and distinction in tumuli which can still be seen here today.
Lest we forget those we love as well as those who we did not know but who we honour for their sacrifice, it is an emotional day.
At the end of it, the Carnarvon flag returns to the top of the flagpole although the process to achieve this is not straight forward. It involves John the Castle Manager climbing what sometimes seems to be an infinite number of steps and squeezing himself into a rather tight space which always seem to be particularly exposed to the wind whilst uttering a non-stop commentary about how he is progressing. A moment of light relief for the rest of us.
How poignant and solemn your post is this morning. If we could only remember how terrible war is and not repeat it!
We’ll said. Let us never forget.
Thank you.
Such a poignant story today, we must try to remember what our ancestors went through and not repeat these dreadful wars. Thank you Lady Carnarvon
I know we have a poppy for Remembrance Day and have flagpole and have two since of 14th November at 11.clock
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
I love all your posts and stories, however it was very touching to me what you and your husband have done in tribute to the veterans of past wars this past week. It was touching and filled with love.
Thank you and bless you for remembering the ones who sacrificed to allow us our freedom. For those who risked and others who lost their lives for us to walk free today.
Warmest wishes,
Elizabeth
Lovely writing about flags! Interesting fact about poppies shedding their petals after only 1 day! Thanks for sharing!
I love learning about protocol and traditions around the world. Do you only fly the Carnarvon flag when you are in residence?
I feel so strongly that we all must get involved in making sure the younger generation knows about our past. Most do not know anything about WWI. What they know about WWII is minimal. I believe the statement made by Churchill sums it all up, “Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” Being the daughter of a WWII veteran and the wife of a Vietnam veteran, forgetting about it is unacceptable. We must never forget what our ancestors sacrificed for freedom.
God Bless you, Lady Carnarvon.
Sue Smith
Englewood, Florida
I have always been a Churchill fan!
CELA REYNOLDS Your post is right on the money.
fondly Jenny Modave
Touching, informative, and simply exquisitely written, as always. Your messages are eagerly awaited each Monday. Thank you, Lady Carnarvon.
You are very kind and then I feel nervous as I write the next one – whether you will like it!!!!
I was a visitor who questioned the colours of the flag when we visited in July, and a very nice lady who stepped out of a land rover nearby, gave my son and myself a very informative answer, and told us they are also your racing colours. It was so interesting hearing all the details about the coat of arms etc., I could have sat and listened to her for hours.
Hello lady Carnarvon.
My poppy ends up floating in the River Kennet as my tribute to the fallen so that I can enjoy my fishing.
John should think of the Flag man at Windsor Castle. The Royal Standard flag is a real monster.
Even at the Houses of Parliament there is a smaller flag for winter use.
You will be surprised at the number of Union Flags being flown incorrectly at Battle Proms, then corrected.
Was there a special flag for Downton?
Carry on Highclere. Hope John gets some rest before erecting your Christmas tree.
No rest for John ….
Thank You so much for your heartfelt thoughts and the time you take to research. It is so important that we always take a look back at history and remember and reminisce with those who have contributed so much.
Thank You so much for your heartfelt thoughts and the time you take to research. It is so important that we always take a look back at history and remember and reminisce with those who have contributed so much.
DITTO!
Lady Carnarvon, such an informative story today. So many things I did not know. Thank you for your wonderful stories, always appreciated. Cheryl
Yes indeed…thank you Lady Carnarvon, a thoughtful, poignant post and photographs that remind us of the courage and sacrifice of all those men and women. Watching the Remembrance Services in London on tv yesterday I was also very moved by those veterans marching proudly, who had been dog handlers for the dogs who were trained to sniff out bombs. They marched wearing the leashes of their dogs diagonally across their chests. A quiet and fitting tribute to both man and dog I think.
Best wishes
June Roberts
Respect, pride, thanks and being there
Dear Lady Carnarvon
I always love the history you present with each blog! Thank you for taking the time to share the rich history at Highclere Castle! How wonderful that you take such honor to preserve such a lovely home!
Beautifully stated. I will always remember as my father served both in WWII and Korea. My husband served during Vietnam. It is such a sacrifice they made for us all.
They did and we will never understand, but we can try
Another lovely posting …. thank you !
I must check my Downton box-set …. but don’t the Crawleys use your flag on top of ‘Downton Abbey’ ??
We do not let them change it – it is our home ..in reality
MY DEAR LADY CARNARVON,
GOOD EVENING FROM BRAZIL 15H44M ,IT’S A WARM DAY IN RIO CLARO, SPRING.
” FUTILITY OF WAR ” , ” HOW TERRIBLE WAR ” , “NOT REPEAT IT ” .
TODAY IN MY COUNTRY, BRAZIL, IS A NACIONAL HOLIDAY, THE DAY ON WICH THE REPUBLIC IS COMMEMORATED WITH THE FALL OF THE MONARCHY WITH THE DEPOSITION OF THE EMPEROR ” DOM PEDRO 2, WHO RETIRED TO EUROPE WITH THE ROYAL FAMILY. 1889-2021 – -132 YEARS OF THE PROCLAMATION OF THE REPUBLIC. CHEERS FOR ALL THE CASTLE. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO EARL CARNARVON FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY, IN THE DAY 10 OF NOVEMBRE .
VILLA ALEMÃ
RIO CLARO – SP
BRAZIL
MILADY, YOUR BOOK IS JUST ARRIVED TODAY IN MY HOUSE IN BRAZIL , IT’S LOVELY ABSOLUTELY STUNNING. CONGRATULATIONS .
That is so kind of you!
Very informative. I always love your blog.
Thank you
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
As the daughter of a veteran of WW2, thank you for your beautiful post. The brave men and women who served, and those who serve presently, we owe them our deepest gratitude. I love the photo of the Cedar Airman, with the plane overhead in the distance, as he smiles. May their spirits be at peace.
Bless them all, and again, thank you for everything you bring to us, the readers. Your insight and history, photographs and humor allow us to explore and reflect.
Be well!
Best regards,
Charlotte Merriam Cole
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
Your blog was absolutely beautiful today.
It brought tears to my eyes.
I do not take my freedoms for granted. I live in thankfulness to those who paid for it
with their lives.
We need to teach our children about the cost.
Jackie Ford,
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
It has been dearly bought
Thanks you for the mention of Remembrance Day.. Veterans Day in the US. Being a Vietnam Veteran, the day always has great meaning for me. My Great Grand Dad fought in France WWI, my Dad fought in Italy, France and Germany in WWII and me, in the Far East, Vietnam.
PS: I saw your reference to Sir Winston Churchill in another “comment”. Celia Sandys, his Granddaughter is a friend. Love to hear her stories about Sir Winston.. she’s promised me a personal tour of Chartwell the next time I’m over from Texas.
Wallace Craig
Midland Texas
Another important remembrance is the night of Kristallnacht Nov 9-10, 1938. I had the privilege of hearing from a son whose father was the last surviving Jew from his town in Poland. This man’s father, Nathan Poremba, as a young boy survived from 1939 when Poland was invaded to the end of the war. He would hide among Oskar Shindler’s workers to escape from the ghetto every day to buy food for his family. Nathan refused to wear the star and because he was blond and blue-eyed, he got away with it. Nathan’s father found out about his father’s past when a comment was made after the family saw the movie, “Shindler’s List.” So many stories of bravery and survival that we can use to inspire our own actions.
Just keep reading history ..
It is stories, they form our past and teach us – it is just finding the authentic ones
A heartfelt blog…ditto!
Lady Carnarvon,
You’ve written a lovely reminder of how we owe our lives to communication – of good tidings or losses, of memories of lives lost, or the excitement of applauding our heroes. I hope your Highclere Castle flag brings many memories of visits to your lovely home as well as private ones.
Our American flag outside our apartment door stands solidly for the veterans and their families who live here in our lovely retirement community. Hundreds have lived here in the past 30 years, and many, including my husband, still do.
We stand in honor of our own countries. Thank you for this post.
Martha G.
Thank you. A great uncle Thomas Powers lies in Flanders Field so trios thoughtful writing and the poem are meaningful to this retired US Army nurse
Thank you for a very timely post and so informative, too!
Lady Carnaveron,
I was recently told you are in the US promoting your latest book. I haven’t been able to find any information on your agenda, is there a list of cities/appearances you will be making? Would love to purchase a book and ask you to sign if possible.
– Samantha
Samantha I could send you a signed postcard to put in a book? I hope to be in pam Springs and the Palm beach early April 2022
I learned about a bit of “flag etiquette” many many years ago watching the Granada production of Brideshead Revisited. When Lord Marchmain dies and the flag bearing his colors was lowered to designate his passing, I cried. The poignancy was too much and, yes, I knew I was watching fiction but I also knew that this was an accurate depiction of reality.
I’m so glad that you and Lord Carnarvon have insisted on your flag being used in Downton Abbey.
Also, in “The Queen” we all learned about the significance of the Royal standard flying only when the Queen is in residence and that the standard was not at half-mast even for the death of George VI. I have so much respect for all these traditions and wish we Americans would honor our flag more properly than many of us do. We aren’t taught the protocol and we should be. Thank you for your posts.
Thank you!
Thanks for a lovely remembrance of WWI and Armistice Day. As a child in the US not much was said about the impact it had on England and the Commonwealth. But after watching Downton Abbey and doing a fair bit of reading, I am touched by the way your country remembers November 11. The poppy fields always bring tears to my eyes and your article was just perfect.
Dear Lady Carnarvon
Love the display of the poppies, so clever.
And of your Carnarvon branding.
Blessings,
Phyllis Simpson,
USA
Beautifully composed. Thank you for the valuable and interesting information as well as the reminder to remember. It is always helpful to balance life with just a touch of humor. Bless you John. Your service is duly noted!
Thank you so very much for this blog on remembrance.
My father was killed on the western front Dec 22 1940.I was only 2 years old.
Remembrance day has always been a sad one and I wear my poppy proudly.
Kathleen …
Hello Lady Carnarvon
This Ode is repeated at every Returned Services Club throughout Australia every night. The lights are dimmed and everyone stands and an announcer says the following:-
“They shall not grow old……as we that are left grow old
Age shall not weary them……nor the years condemn
At the going down of the sun…….and in the morning
We will remember them…..lest we forget”
Then everyone says “lest we forget”
All service clubs lower the flag at sunset every day and raise it again at dawn.
Flag poles as you say represent many things, all of which are important and all of which denote
what is going on around them. To value our flag is a precious right and to disfigure or burn our nations flag amounts to an act of treason so far as I am concerned.
So hooray for flag poles and congratulations to that brave staff member who makes the journey to your flag pole!
I hope you and Lord Carnarvon are both well and that all of our chatters are too. Bless everyone and keep you all safe.
Joy
Orange.
Australia
Thank you Lady Carnarvon for remembering our US Veterans. I would especially like to thank you for always paying tribute to those names that are on the white crosses in your photo- the crew of the Fort Worth Jail House, and my Dad the survivor, T-Sgt Len Nitti. My family truly appreciates everything you do.
Laura Nitti-Lemajeur
They were remarkable men
Lushtastic!
Dear Lady Carnarvon:
Thank you for your solemn Monday blog.
Also, thank you to you and Lord Carnarvon for recognizing the contributions made by veterans from past wars.
Learned an interesting fact about poppies. Great side share.
Until next week, be healthy and safe.
Perpetua Crawford
Thank you for remembering, and quoting, Canadian Soldier and Doctor, John McCrae, from Guelph Ontario, Canada. Everyone in Canada, from school children to the elderly, knows this poem by heart, and it has been set to music in several lovely arrangements over the years.
My beloved Dad served with the 1st Canadian Parachute Battalion, a group of unbelievably brave and courageous individuals, elite soldiers, every one.
We will remember them.
Jeanne Kaye Speight
Fredericton NB Canada
I have one question regarding the flag. It appears during Downton Abbey to move from the Left tower as you face the door to the Right tower on other occasions. Why is this and how often is the flag changed?
There is only one flag which was not touched during Downton filming