Reading about history tells us that some centuries, some decades and some years are more challenging than others and it seems this ‘time’ may be one of them.
Whilst it is good to try to stay informed so is “time out” important. Perhaps it may be time spent curled up with a book, watching a favourite TV programme (would that include Downton Abbey for any of you?!!) or a weekend away. It might be a brisk walk with every breath curling into the cold air, discussing where to find some sun after the long dark winter or planning a visit to friends. It all helps to keep a sense of perspective and hope.
Without these essential grounding moments, it can seem too dark a world. There is such pleasure in the little things in life: the puppy sitting on top of a basket of ironed clothes (Poppy!), a snowdrop just appearing, the smell of a log fire, the scent of the yellow flowers of a prickly mahonia shrub drifting across a path.
Safe experiences, memories and places help us get through bleaker moments. We cannot just sit in a heap for too long as that does not achieve anything. Walking, moving, friends and travel inspire all of us.
I often turn round the same question in my head: what is Highclere? How can we persuade visitors to come here, to feel attached to Highclere’s world, to care and to feel part of it? My brain, such as it is, never stops spinning around considering different points of view, different perspectives and imperatives.
I do think Highclere’s main role – Highclere’s team – is about making visitors happy, making them feel welcome whether they are here in person, through social media or through groups like Friends of Highclere thus establishing a shared community and memories of happy times.
To widen our appeal, we try to offer tours of different sorts, several days each week, nearly every week of the year (although we do all collapse between Christmas and New Year!). From ‘Wintertime’ tours this month where the focus is inside the Castle to the early spring guided tours which bring both the story of Tutankhamun and that of Highclere and Downton Abbey together. Later there is Easter Opening when the spring flowers are so welcome as is of course the Easter Egg Hunt which is once more in aid of the Murray Parish Trust.
The natural cycle of the year leads us into different options although the diary gets more complicated as this year progresses. As the trees unfurl their vivid green leaves and the lawns become clothed in the bright colours and scents of azaleas, we welcome our midsummer guided tours. Hopefully we will keep adding tours as we can.
In addition, this year we are creating some new guided ‘Behind the Scenes’ tours for Friends of Highclere and a Summer Garden Party for all our Friends on Saturday June 15th: roses, traditional music and afternoon teas, my beloved Labradors and guided Castle tours.
The country fair is back in the Park on the Whitsun May Bank holiday and of course my favourite – Battle Proms on Saturday August 3rd – a date for your diary perhaps.
I think it helps if we plan ahead so that visitors can plan ahead too. I am just completing
Highclere’s History Festival on October 5th and 6th It will be different theme again this year but the Castle is ready for its next role!
Planning further ahead we will publish Christmas 2024 in April – so that special family days out can be organised and looked forward to.
Curiously my parents (in spirit) and sisters remember with glee that I always said I did not like planning ahead – in fact I would always procrastinate like mad about it.
Hilariously, Geordie and I now sketch out 5 and 10 year plans as well as focusing more sharply on the next two years. It helps everyone – the team here at Highclere for their own lives and those who might wish to visit. It also makes business sense as it makes the prospect of gathering future revenue much less scary and it means I can focus on filling the gaps.
Having said that, time is a gift and there is no time like the present. It is a precious commodity and the most anyone can do is try their best each day to make the tomorrows easier and better.
What a wonderful read. Thoroughly enjoyed it and we look forward to our visit to Highclere in April..:)
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Thank you for a thoughtful and thought provoking article. It was most enjoyable.
I felt for a moment that you knew me when I read the phrase “watching a favourite TV programme (would that include Downton Abbey for any of you?!!).” I do watch Downton every night to help me go to sleep. No, it is not boring, but after viewing the series many (more than 10) times, it is familiar and somehow comforting.
BTW, I enjoyed you phrase “procrastinate like mad.” I am adding it to my lexicon.
you will have to add the lexicon to your inaction!!!
Tellement vrai ! Bravo pour cette philosophie, cette sagesse et tout le travail que vous effectuez avec vos équipes.
C’est un plaisir de vous lire chaque semaine.
Bien sincèrement.
Merci beaucoup
Thank you for your continued informative writings.
I’m one of those whose bedtime routine includes Downton Abbey!
I live on Vancouver Island in Canada, and am fortunate to be visiting Highlclere this July with an Acorn tv group. I am beyond excited!
What a lovely article, I’m in love with Highclere and Downton, I’ve attended the Christmas event recently at it was magical. Lady Carnavon herself was so charming and a pleasure to talk to and so patiently answering peoples questions. I loved the books I purchased and the Christmas at Highclere book we were given. I’m am looking forward to learning more about it. It’s so fantastic that we can experience and explore this fabulous place. I’m enjoying the Instagram stories as well, including the behind the scenes series and beautiful stories involving dogs. Same as Richard mentioned in comments above I love watching Downton often, cannot get enough of beautiful interiors, surroundings, fashion and characters. I recommend for anyone that has a chance to visit Highclere to put it on their bucket list, especially at Christmas when it’s so enchanting.
Merci
I doubt that I will ever see Highclaire in person, but I do love reading your blog and living vicariously.
Have you ever considered doing some type of tour (for a fee?) or maybe you already do and I’ve missed it.
Anyway, wishing you a terrific day planning ahead or reading a book in front of the fire. God bless.
Thank you. I just think it is nice to share
I once wrote that Highclere is “the stuff that dreams are made of”. But we have discovered through our visits, your blogs, podcasts and Friends of Highclere that it is so much more. A bridge between peoples, a window to the past and the promise of endless possibilities.
We look forward to all your endeavours!
Heather
Very kind
Lady Carnarvon….. I hope your down time at Christmas sustanes you through the hectic times ahead. You seem to take everything in stride with ease. May God bless you for being the strong woman that you are. Have a good week.
Beautifully said time management is such an important skill. Plus it gives you time the enjoy your home and time away from home. Personally I enjoy sitting down to read or watch the birds feeding at our bird feeders. Also enjoy day trips to historical sites and events.
Sage advice from a caring, and bright individual. Well said across the board. You are always a part of my Mondays, as church is on Sundays . God bless you.
I love the photos, especially the sheep.
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
So important to have down time. Yesterday, due to our severely cold weather, i watched Downton again (lost count of how many times I’ve watched it. Also watched some of the 2010 “Upstairs Downstairs. Wonderful cast especially the talented Jean Marsh.
Downton, of course is my favourite….opening scenes panning into Highclere and the music …just wonderful.
Thank you again for your wonderful posts.
Pip Annie(Canada)
Today is a “time out” for us in Texas as we have severe weather with very cold temperatures and dangerous driving conditions! We will take your suggestion and make a fire and enjoy a book.
Oh how I enjoy your Monday morning writings Lady Highclere. Who are those precious little children in the black & white photo? Did children live at Highclere during the war?
They did indeed live here
Lady Carnarvon,
The images of the animals of Highclere are so beautiful. Nature helps us rethink and reflect. Trying to enjoy a little chilly weather in Florida, before we get the strong heat. As we say “time is gold”.
Lovely picture of time out did you and lord Carnarvon have a nice weekend lam fan of Downton Abbey and thank for your email
Visiting Highclere was one of the highlights of my trip to London/UK last year. I treasure the memories of wandering the beautiful grounds and enjoying a glass of champagne. Every member of your Highclere team was welcoming. You have created a marvelous experience for visitors.
Thank you – I love wandering and the little glass of something bubbly!
Lady Carnarvon,
You are so correct when you remind us that little things can improve this world and help us avoid losing hope. One of the funniest things I have enjoyed is seeing the delightful hopping and prancing and jumping of very young goats [kids]!
Thank you for the sweet pictures if the small children and the beautiful wildflowers that grow in spite of the weather or the world.
Well done, well done!
Martha G.
Love to read your writings. Sounds like a fun filled year. We enjoyed our time at Highclere last year. You can tell the staff are happy they were wonderful to work with. Future planning is so important and I’m sure for you and Highclere it is a must.
Hi Lady Carnarvon
I like your very grand fireplace especially the fire dogs (Andirons) and the mesh curtain fire screen.
I have a real fire my self and it’s lovely to sit by and make toast or read a good book. There is something very comforting about a real fire, your missive put me in mind of that. It reminds me of good things. Thank you so much
There is nothing quite like sitting by a log fire with a good book
Love your blog. So nicely transparent and descriptive. It seems to be true, as Robert says in Downton, you are just a caretaker. And as such doing a marvelous unenviable of job of keeping it alive. Well done you!
Thank you
Your thoughts are so organized and so eloquently stated; and today they are so apropos! I am the older sister of my dear brother who is engaged this year in compiling a “ life story” —- complete with ancestral photos—- as he reflects on his 77 years of life! I am obliging him by emailing old family photos for his reminiscences, which will ultimately be bound in a volume.
( This project was a Christmas gift to him which is keeping him busy as he grieves the loss of his dear wife in September. )
Your family history as it’s linked to Highcleare is an inspiration to us all to keep memories as alive as possible! Now in my 80s, I remember so fondly the ancestors I knew personally all my life! They helped to form our characters and personalities as we grew. The “ balcony people “ in our lives!
Your brother is doing a great job – it is too easy not to do it..
THANK YOU FOR YOUR STORY , GREAT READ .
Good Monday Lady Carnarvon
Thank you so much for this blog..
I love Mondays because of your writings.
Have a wonderful week.
All the best from freezing Canada.
Cheers
Kathleen from Barrie Ontario.
I so enjoy this bit of “sunshine” on a gray winter day in St. Louis, Missouri. It also gives me some dates to shoot for to come back to visit Highclere. I so enjoyed the Eton Mess! And it would be so great to revisit an “old friend”. After all, isn’t that what Highclere has become through Downton Abbey? All the best to you in 2024!
Planning ahead can be challenging at times, but given the fantastic history of Highclere Castle and its beautiful interior rooms and exterior areas and delicious Tea times & tasty Highclere Gin and its popularity (thankful to Downton Abbey) and so many events you host to raise money for medical and military servers, it is a desirable place for so many of us to love to visit and especially given the friendly personalities of you and Lord Carnarvon!
Impressed of Highclere events you’ve already planned this year and wondering if you will also have presentations again here in the USA.
Given this is winter season here in the USA and there in England, now is a great time to again read your Winter Season chapter in the wonderful book you wrote: Seasons At Highclere.
Good luck with all the calendar planning you have to do going forward and do remain well!
When I visited in 2016, which now seems like an eternity ago, the Castle staff made my private tour group from Iowa Public Television feel very welcome. They even opened the shop just for us, although, since we were American Downton fans with trip mad money and a time limit, I am sure we helped with quite a bit of support for the Castle that day as well. I am still enjoying my Castle “finds”. I have always been a “planner” which vexes my husband somewhat as he is more of a lets just go and hope for the best type, but that has landed us in few really bad hotels or no hotel on trips over the years so he has kind of given up. Wish we lived close enough to attend some of your lovely events.
I am in Vero March this March – looking froward to it!
Thank you, Lady Carnarvon, for this wonderful post! I believe it’s good for life balance to take a time out and unplug. Recently, I learned about the hygge concept, and the time out philosophy sounds similar to this. I attended a winter hygge gathering set after the holidays earlier this month, and it was an incredible experience to rejuvenate after a busy holiday season.
Thank you all, and the Highclere Castle team, for all that you do. It is greatly appreciated.
I have a very erratic life (some would say crazy). During the pandemic, I bought myself two signs. They read, “It’s So Good To Be Home,” and “Today I Will Do Absolutely Nothing.” I am trying to take my own advice.
“What is a weekend ?” lol. I do so enjoy your articles and my dream is to visit one day.
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A wonderful article, as always. Uplifting in rather bleak times!
Resolution this year…to visit Highclere in person.
Christine Tyrie
Hello!
It has been awhile since I have commented. I look forward to your weekly blogs. We were in London the first part of June 2023. Sadly, the castle was not open. So…. hopefully will plan another trip either later this year or next year. Will make sure the castle is open.
Have a wonderful week.
Lisa Cosgrove
Bolingbrook, IL USA
Thank you – hope to see you later in the year!
Dearest Lady Carnarvon,
I am on a Downton Abbey Reddit thread. Someone was asking how many times is *too many* to watch Downton. SO MANY people responded of how watching Downton literally saved and comforted them during some of the worst times of their lives! I thought I was the only one. When my husband was fighting Cancer for the last two years (he is now in remission❤️), I would watch Downton and do hand embroidery. Other people said watching Downton was the only thing that comforted them after losing a loved one. I just bought the DVD just so I could watch all the extras, making of, and director’s commentary. I’m hoping that you make an appearance in the extras as well!! If I lived in England I would be there as much as possible to volunteer!!
I so enjoy reading your blog every Monday morning. The pictures are very beautiful and your thoughts are so interesting and informative. Funny you should ask about watching Downton Abby. I’m in the process right now of rewatching the whole series — for the, who knows how many, times.
Indeed would include ‘Downton’. We are currently watching from start to finish again for at least the third time and maybe more. We are in the jaws of winter as are so many of my ‘fellow Americans’. One of the worst in recent history. Dangerously cold.
IL Annie
Thank you Lady Carnavon for your most enjoyable Monday morning narrations. I have always been interested in architecture. With the US being relatively young in comparison to the rest of the world, we don’t, of course, have the magnificent old structures that you enjoy in Europe. I am very excited to visit Highclerc in September and take in what I imagine to be a breathtaking, memorable experience.
I hope so – !
I always look forward to your articles on Mondays! Thank you for your inspiring words. I feel energized after reading them and ready to face another week!
Such a nice blog. We are told constantly to move, hustle and grind- while it is great to plan and be prepared some get lost in being in the here and now.
I like to be here now, be present in the time and place you are in.
I look forward to visiting you corner of the world someday (soon I hope!), such a beautiful home, with rich history.
Thank you Lady Carnarvon.
I attended a Victorian Garden Party a few years ago, and it was such a wonderful experience. I am wondering if the garden party you are having this summer will be similar.
I would love to come again. It was such a joy to meet you and your husband.
It will have music, afternoon tea and the gift of time out!!!
We came over “the pond” to visit my Aunt who lives in Castle Combe in December. Tour of Highclere, the Christmas Market, and the beautiful music by the Ukrainian Women’s Choir was a highlight of our trip.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful home with everyone.
Susie Cassens
Fort Pierce, Florida
Alas, instead of watching Downton Abbey, I binge watched Game of Thrones. I came to the conclusion that politics, greed, and lust for power hasn’t changed. But you are a warm ray of sunshine every Monday.
Greetings from Michigan, with much gratitude for your wisdom and posts.
Love this Monday blog! Your words resonated strongly with me! Living in the NW Ohio, USA, we have had a long stretch of really dreary windy, cold and snowy days and are now in the grips of Arctic temperatures. Cold that burns your nose and numbs everything not covered in layers of clothing! Today we have had a bit of sunshine and were able to open the heavy curtains at the windows and let the sun shine into the house! Which energized me, in your words a “grounding moment”. I try to “make my own Happiness” on the dreary winter days as they can last longer than we would like.
We visited Highclere Castle in December 2019 which was fantastic and I am looking forward to a visit again during a different season when the gardens are glorious! I am also a great fan of Downton Abbey. Thank You Lady Carnarvon for your Monday blogs they are much appreciated by so many!
You are so kind – stay warm!
Lady Carnarvon,
Three cheers to all the mental and physical effort you put in which people like me can enjoy. I have no doubt that decades from now your successors will write about how clever and handy you were.
Perhaps that I tried!
Great! I don´t speak very well english but I can read your words, always smarts, elegants and full of sense and emotions. Thank you.
Thank you
Lady Carnarvon, thank you for reminder of the importance of “time out.” Here in the USA it is going to be a tumultuous year. It will be essential to take time out in order to cope and remain positive. Another of your spot-on posts.
Yes Highclere is on my bucket list! Love your blogs and daily /weekly following on thru social media! Thank you for your thoughtful insights and encourages to so many through such a resource!!
I am very much enjoying your blogs – from New Zealand! We have been avid Downton watchers and I am very excited that we may have the opportunity to visit Highclere when we take our (probably last) overseas tour in April/May this year. I think I saw a mention of a Whitsun event on May 19th which is the only one of two possible days we can visit your glorious castle. We leave for Wales and Scotland on the 21st. Would you be able to provide any more information, I know that the castle is not open any other time that fits our itinerary and will be terribly disappointed if we cannot visit. You mention in this blog about planning and as you can imagine, it takes a lot of planning when you are on the other side of the world!! I have been in touch with the office about this and have all fingers crossed!
Good Morning- we have a complicated diary … everyone is keen on that day!! Not yet sure
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
I always love your elevating and introspective words. Please keep them coming. I would love to live in England to enjoy your special events. I was able to visit Highclere a couple of years ago. Of course, I have watched Downton Abbey many times. Thank you.
Thank you!
Dear Lady Carnarvon,
I am so thankful for your graciousness.
I have been enjoying your blog, podcasts and your instagram posts.
Thank you for welcoming us into the world of Highclere Castle.
As a Downtown Abbey fan it is a gift that I can be welcomed into life at Highclere.
I am looking forward, with great enthusiasm, to my visit in August! It will be my first time in London and I will be celebrating my Birthday.
Your words “ time is a gift, no time like the present” ring true!
Thank you again for your delightful presence in your interactions with this humble fan! You’re a joy!
My visit to Highclere was in September 2014. I will never forget it. Perfection, especially the green silk wallpaper.
Thank you Lady Carnarvon for another beautiful read!
Planning ! Yes! My husband and I are in planning mode now to visit Highclere and the Cotswolds this September for our 47th Wedding Anniversary .
Carol
North Carolina
Congratulations!
Just wonderful, planning is one of my favorite things to do (and organizing : )! My dad and I are traveling from the States to London in April and I’m hoping that visiting dates for the castle will open up for the week that we’re there 21st -26th. He hasn’t had an opportunity to travel in decades and this will likely be his last trip, so I’m hoping to give him this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see the castle in person (it’s on the top of his wish list). With that, do you suspect that additional April dates will open up, or is the castle closed for the rest of the month? Crossing my fingers and toes from New Jersey.
We offer some guided tours
https://highclerecastleshop.co.uk/categories/the-earl-and-the-pharaoh-from-the-real-downton-abbey-to-the-disc
I have just been able to read this post on “Time Out”. I am doing just that right now, while watching through the whole series of Downton Abbey at home. Ice covered roads and ice covered walkways are keeping me indoors. Thank you for this post and God bless your new year!
Good day, Lady Carnarvon.
I’m new to your website. Not new to downtown Abby (I’m rewatching for my 12th time… no kidding) I work from home and while I’m working I have it playing on the background on my computer :o). I have to remind myself. Lilly! Stop and get back to work, lol!!
I’m enjoying reading your page. I’ve ordered two books 1st. Countess of Fiona Carnarvon, 2nd Lady Catherine. I’m going to do what you said “Time Out”.
P.s.
I’m sad we didn’t get a chance to visit Highclair in October 2023, we went backpacking (I’ve never backpacker Europe. Heck! I’ve never backpacked. Talk about out of my box).
My husband and our best friend felt bad we didn’t visit. My husband says will come back. I can’t wait.
Have a safe 2024 ;o)
Lillian A.
Hesperia, California
Thank you for another great Monday read. I think Highclere will always be a draw card for itself and through the “Downton” Abbey connection. Highclere has everything – we’ve only been twice because we live on the other side of the world, but there’s so much to enjoy. The gardens, the house, the history, the grounds and the wonderful team at Highclere. You have interesting and exciting events throughout the year as well. And you have your books and delicious gin. We’d visit more regularly to make the most of the seasons if we lived in the UK. Highclere and your family are also a major drawcard. You make time to take garden tours and high teas, just to name a few events. It’s such a joy for us to take time out and visit Highclere.
I loved finding this blog again.
I am rewatching Downton again, probably for the tenth time, as it lulls me into a state of comfort and takes my mind off of the ills of the current world.
Downton shows us that families are all alike- everyone experiences sorrow and joy – and it gives us hope.
I loved my time at Highclere on our private tour and I consider it one of my best memories. I hope to visit again
Thank you!
You are kind – I agree it is reassuring
Dearborn Lady Carnarvon:
Thank you for this Monday’s blog. Your article is always so timely. With the
extremely cold temperatures and icy/snowy weather, it is a reminder to slow down and forward plan; which was a concept I learned in grade school and have followed throughout my lifetime.
Until next week, Go Lions.
Perpetua Crawford
Querida Lady:
Aunque esté a distancia, en España, todo ese esfuerzo que relata en su blog se nota en todo lo que veo, leo y curioseo en la pagina.
Gracias por ese esfuerzo, algún año iré a visitarla.
Un saludo.
Anabel